By Alex Padilla If there’s one thing that every American should agree with, it’s this: Voting is the fundamental right in our democracy, the one that makes all others possible. The right to choose our representatives is why patriots dumped tea into Boston Harbor, why women marched for the 19th Amendment, and why 51 years […]

By Dave Roberts Did you know that nearly 20,000 residents of our county are living with HIV/AIDS and that more than one in 10 of them don’t even know they are infected? Also troubling are reports from public health officials that 6,400 county residents are aware of their diagnosis but aren’t getting the care they […]

On October 9, John Lennon, one of the greatest musicians and peace activists of the 20th century, would have been 75. Lennon was a complicated person based on his troubled relationship with his first family, his views of the disabled, and his reported drug use. John Lennon was no saint, but his music, I believe, had and continues […]

Self-love for men is to open themselves, and to give love from themselves to others. Men have to be willing to open themselves to be vulnerable and give love, with the possibility of not getting love or loved in return. Men have to allow themselves to take the focus off themselves and place it on the […]

By Dave Roberts With its approval of a $5.4 billion budget for 2015-16, the Board of Supervisors redoubled its fight against mental illness by authorizing an additional $1.6 million to help people in the midst of crisis. The funding puts trained professionals on the streets, apartment buildings, parks – or anywhere else that a mental […]

We create what we most desire and what we most fear. Often times we get watered down results because part of us wants something, but another part of us is afraid to get it. This is called “approach avoidance”. Sometimes this happens in the game of finding and creating a love relationship. This is a […]

We each have our own model of the world. Everybody wants something. To gain a deeper level of rapport enter the other person’s world, and view their experience from their perspective. One of the keys to connecting is to enter the other person’s world. The second key to connecting with another person is to listen […]

If you are not in the relationship of your choice it may be that you have unresolved issues related to the following concerns. Write down your answer to the following questions. What is your relationship like with men/women? Are you just barely on speaking terms or are you best friends with him/her? Many people have […]